Melinda Gale

Fitness & Lifestyle

Love Yo Self

You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm

This summer in my small group, we were required to give ourselves a challenge. My challenge was to love myself. Having always struggled with insecurities and body image issues, I felt like I made the right choice. I'd like to say that I really took this challenge seriously, but I didn't. I got caught up in traveling, my clients, and putting other's problems before my own needs. 

Before something great happens, everything falls apart. Just hold on long enough to get through the smoke screen.
— Keith Sweat

Maybe it was God or maybe it was just inevitable but around summer's end, I got knocked on my ass. I had one of those months where everything that could have went wrong, went wrong. This forced me to refocus and regroup. I got back in the gym and started taking my workouts more seriously. I started reading again, one of my favorite things to do. I started saying NO to people I normally say yes to. I started saying YES to people I normally say no to. I started telling myself the tiny problems that come up during my work day aren't the end of the world and I shouldn't stress so much about them. I stopped being so paranoid about what others thought of me and realized everyone has their own problems to worry about. I realized that all of those negative things I have been told about myself are likely just another persons insecurities projected. Hell, I even started this blog as a creative outlet. 

Life is too short to sit around and wait for indifferent people to make up their minds about how they feel about you.
— Mike Falzone

I have more clarity than I have had in a while. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. I don't carry others baggage around with me every day. I ACTUALLY SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT (something I haven't done in maybe 3 years). Although a few months late, I finally feel like I am beginning to love myself. I know that I am capable of amazing things. I know that I am smart and hard working. I know that I am a great and loving friend. I know that I shouldn't have to force someone to want to be in my life.  I am worthy. 

Loving yourself is a process but I think I am already past the hardest part. Now I can start really living.