Melinda Gale

Real Life In Raleigh

Letter To Myself

Dear Past Melinda,

First off, you are amazing. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Don't be so rude to your parents. They are doing the best they can. Don't lie to them so much. If you are honest with them, they will be a lot cooler.

Try harder in school. I mean in every grade, try really hard. If you don't, you won't get into the college that you want to go to. Study. If you don't, you'll fail most of your classes and spend a few semesters trying to catch up. 

Realize that there is a fine line between helping people out and being taken advantage of. Don't surround yourself with moochers. That's all they are going to be. 

Those guys who keep making you feel like you are so inadequate that you aren’t worthy of being loved by them? They are broken. You are not.

You are going to make some life changing decisions. Don't worry, you're going to make the right choice and if you don't, it will all still work out for the better.

Make sure you drink a ton of water while you are at a bar or else you will have a hangover of death the next day. Avoid Sparks and boxed wine. I know you like whiskey but you don't have to prove to anyone how much of it you can drink. Stop trying to match that guy drink for drink, he has a drinking problem. You'll end up throwing up in front of him. Not cute, Melinda. 

Stand up for yourself more. Stand up for yourself when those people bully you in school. Stand up for yourself when those girls are bitches to you. Stand up for yourself when that guy repeatedly embarrasses you and treats you like shit. You are worth more than this. 

Don't be such a bitch to people. You have no reason to be. You're overcompensating because you are insecure. Stop being so insecure. 

Don't allow things to happen in your life when your gut tells you it will end the same way every time. Stop trusting the cycle. Just because you can trust it doesn't make it okay. 

Stop checking your phone so much. You don't have to respond to a text the second you get it. No one else does. You don't have to check your email in the middle of the night. You don't have to respond to non-urgent emails at 3AM. Get some sleep. 

Use your vacation days for actual vacations. Don't use all your time and money to fly to NC every 5 minutes. Your family and friends will understand and want you to be happy. 

Someone can tell you they love you but if they don't SHOW you, it doesn't mean anything. Real love makes an effort. 

That moment? Burn it into your memory. You'll think back on it a lot when times get hard.

 You won't hang out with your high school friends after you graduate. It's okay. It's natural. 

 Be more present. 

Stop getting so frustrated over unanswered prayers. I promise you, God knows what he's doing.  

Trust your body. Go all out in your athletics and workouts. Your body is a lot stronger than you think it is. Stop eating shitty food. It's why you are fat. 

Don't do that homecoming prank. You will get suspended and arrested. Or do it. It ends up being a great story at dinner parties. 

Stop bragging about dumb shit that doesn't matter. Your friends love you for you. You don't have to prove anything. 

Don't put your entire life on the internet. It's okay to post some things but not everything. 

Embrace that your life is different than you expected it to be. Don't be sad about it. You are beyond blessed. It's okay that you aren't married with 3 kids already. You are doing great things. Your time will come. 

Don't make decisions based on what's best for other people. They probably wouldn't do this for you. Make decisions based on what's best for you and your future. 

Call your grandparents more. 

xo,
Melinda